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Reason Why You Need to Stop Saying ‘Sorry’ All The Time

Apologizing all the time is actually a terrible idea.

For a lot of people in the world, saying, “I’m sorry,” is a huge personal step that can be difficult to come to terms with. Admitting you’re wrong isn’t always easy. On the other hand, we all know people who tend to do the opposite — over-apologize.

“Say you are sorry.” How many times have you heard a parent chastising their child use that phrase? If you pay attention when you are walking past a playground, toy store, daycare, shallow end of a swimming pool or anywhere that children are likely to be gathered, you will almost inevitably hear a parent or guardian telling one child to say “sorry” to another. 


What Exactly Does ‘Sorry’ Mean?

We are all familiar with the gist of what sorry means, but it’s worth going back over while we’re on the topic.

According to Merriam-Webster, sorry means, “inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule.”

Children are taught to apologize when they are very young. It is right and proper to apologize after you have done something wrong. It is also simply good manner to apologize if you have inconvenienced someone by making them wait while you dug your boarding pass out from the bottom of your purse or stood blocking the way without realizing the other person was there. These are the proper instances when you should hear your mother’s voice telling you to say “sorry” as if you were a rambunctious five year old once again who just knocked over the other kid on the playground because you ran into them. 

Some people, especially women, say “sorry” constantly, for things that are completely out of their control or don’t warrant an apology at all.

We’ve all probably unnecessarily apologized for our appearance, feelings, the weather, or even for asking a question.

Now that you’re reading this, it probably does feel a little silly to be “sorry” so often. But hey, over-apologizing happens to the best of us.

t time you are out and about, pay attention to how many times someone says “sorry” to you. You will probably hear it repeatedly. You will hopefully hear it from the person who runs into you as they are hurrying around the corner of the clothing rack. You should hear it from the person who was not paying attention to the line in the grocery store and stood next to the self-checkout machine texting instead of taking a few steps forward and freeing up the machine for the next person. 

If you pay attention, you might notice that you are also hearing “sorry” from those who have no real reason to be apologizing to you. When you are the one blocking the entire aisle at the grocery store while you debate over what brand of taco shells you want to buy, the person trying to squeeze by you to reach the salsa should not be the one apologizing. If you start arguing with the cashier and wake up the baby behind you, the harried mother should not be the one apologizing because the infant is crying. You will probably, however, still hear those people apologizing to you. 

“Sorry” has invaded the modern vocabulary in a truly strange way. Even though many people seem to either thrive on confrontation today or appear to view apologizing as admitting to some deep personal flaw, many people say “sorry” more than ever. Plenty of people, especially young women, preface every question they ask with the word “sorry.” Apologizing at the start of a question is appropriate when you need to ask someone to repeat something they already said several times because you were not paying attention. It may also be appropriate if you have a question you have to ask immediately even though the person speaking asked you to wait to ask questions until their presentation, story or explanation was finished. If you are interrupting, prefacing your question with a “sorry” might also be a good idea. Other than that, however, no one should ever be apologizing for the simple act of asking a question. Yet, that is exactly what many young women seem to be doing. 

Prefacing a question, request for clarification or even a civil, reasonable disagreement with “I’m sorry, but” immediately makes your point easier to dismiss. A question that might otherwise be given a lengthy or detailed explanation might only receive a short answer. A perfectly reasonable disagreement or civilly pointing out a flaw in a plan or argument might be brushed aside or completely ignored. When you imply that you are sorry for speaking up, you and your ideas are easily ignored. This is especially problematic for young women who are already in the habit of using uptalk, or ending statements with a change in pitch that makes the statement sound like a question. Such people are seen as having little confidence and are often perceived as less intelligent than their peers who speak with level tones and ask questions without shame.

The fact that people apologize more than is strictly necessary is not just a problem for those who are the ones apologizing. When a person says they are sorry all the time, the word comes to lose its meaning. When the person truly wants or needs to apologize, they have to find words other than “I’m sorry.” They say it so often that the phrase has become trite or useless. 

This is not just true of people who seem to start every statement with the word “sorry.” If you have a habit of saying you are sorry when you are not, your apologies have just become meaningless as well. If you are not actually sorry, do not lie and apologize. There are plenty of ways to agree to disagree politely or to recognize that there was a problem that was no one’s fault without one person being forced to falsely apologize. 

You may just be trying to be polite when you say sorry for something small, but it could be misinterpreted.

Being sorry goes hand in hand with having something to be guilty for, so if you don’t feel guilty, there’s no need to be sorry.

While looking guilty to someone else is one thing, the most important reason why you shouldn’t say sorry so much has more to do with you.

Carrying guilt is exhausting, and being “sorry” all the time probably makes you feel a little guilty for whatever it is you’re sorry for.

Most of the time, a little mistake is nothing to feel guilty about, and you shouldn’t let unnecessary baggage weigh you down.

Again, there is a time and place for apologies. No one is perfect, and sometimes we have to admit that we were wrong and ask for forgiveness.

If you’re saying sorry constantly, the phrase loses its meaning when it might really matter.

Save sorry for the times when you really need it, and it will go a long way.

Silence Can Be Golden

We all speak without thinking from time to time. A lot of people say sorry as a filler phrase in situations where they don’t know what else to say.

The truth is, we don’t always have to have something to say. Silence can give us an opportunity to reflect and think of the right thing to say, or it can just be peaceful in itself.


Try Replacing It With Another Phrase

The truth is, we are often trying to say something when we say sorry. Oftentimes, it’s just not the appropriate word choice.

Next time you accidentally bump into one, just say excuse me. Or, instead of being sorry something took so long, just say thank you.

There are a lot of different ways to express appreciation or fault that don’t come with all of the sorry strings attached.


“Say you’re sorry” is an important lesson that children, and many adults, need to learn and practice. When people get older, however, there should be a second lesson: only say you are sorry if you truly mean it, otherwise, it stops meaning anything at all.

Download Google Chrome’s Just Not Sorry plugin.

As you’re composing an email, the Just Not Sorry plugin will notify you each time you use a word or phrase that undermine your message (i.e., “I’m sorry,” “I’m no expert, but…”). You can also hover your mouse over the underlined words for a bite-sized explanation of how they might make people think less of you.

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