15 Types of Men That Make Bad Husbands

15 Types of Men That Make Bad Husbands

Ladies, date these kind of men at your own peril

When alarms sound in our heads, we need to listen. This is especially true when they concern potential marriage partners. This radar warns, “Be careful. Don’t think you can fix him.”

5 Types of Men That Make Bad Husbands

Just as the great patriarch Abraham wanted a good wife for his son, so our heavenly Father wants good spouses for His children too. His warnings protect us from marrying the wrong kind of men.

We love to believe that we can turn a frog into a prince. And that if we love the wrong man a little harder or give him more time, or worse that if we marry such types, by the magical power of love we can change them into the kind of men we want. It gives me no pleasure to say it, but all that, I have come to discover, is nonsense!

There is a certain kind of man who is dangerous and destroys everything he touches. Who should be avoided at all cost, because he brings pain, misery and every heartache imaginable. What’s more, these kinds of men rob women of their youth, happiness and turn them into bitter, miserable hags at the ‘tender’ age of 30. Now who needs that?

When we get married, our lives change forever. Nobody said marriage was easy. In fact, it takes a lot of work. A good husband is up for the challenge, a bad spouse won’t be. A good husband is committed to the marriage, through the good and the bad. A good husband is also committed to relationship success. The great thing is that we can do much to increase our chances of having terrific marriages. We can be in marriages that are fulfilling and exciting, rich with meaning, joy and love when we know what signs to pay attention to. While there are many positive traits they may show you, they may also be showing you the opposite. It’s important that you watch this carefully.

Here are 15 types of men to avoid.

1. He has addictions.

“Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money” (1 Tim. 3:2-3).

People who are physically and emotionally dependent on substances and habits endanger those close to them. “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control” (Pro. 25:28). City walls protected the inhabitants from harm. Addictions invite financial problems, mood swings, harmful influences, and, in some cases, legal repercussions into your home. 

The habits and substances that numb an addict’s pain hinder his judgment. Just as you wouldn’t want to ride in a car driven by someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol, neither do you want to partner with someone driven by an unhealthy habit or substance. Even “acceptable” addictions, like exercise, cause repeated heartache when they take precedence over family and faith. 

Addictions generate shame and deceit. Secrets build walls in a marriage. If you want to be lonely in marriage, marry an addict.

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2. A Man Who is Closed Off From His Partner

A good man is open and willing to be vulnerable with his partner. They are receptive to feedback, even when that feedback isn’t what they want to hear. A sign of a bad husband is a man who is closed off from his partner. He hides things and won’t open up when he is questioned, no matter the approach. When someone is open-minded and free-thinking in their relationship, they are better able to express their thoughts, feelings, dreams and desires with their partner. This level of transparency allows your spouse to not only trust you, but also know where you stand. Like perfect people, perfect marriages don’t exist, but if your man is someone who can talk about problems in the marriage, then your relationship is going to have serious issues.

3. He’s angry.

How do you feel when you are around an angry person? Are you relaxed and free to be yourself? No way! 

Living with an angry person is like walking through a minefield. The meal he loved yesterday irks him today. And the dress you bought with him in mind hoping for a compliment—forget it. He’ll find something wrong with it or have a snarky remark for you. 

Rage isn’t the only sign of anger. Cutting comments and sarcastic jokes are enough to leave you feeling bad. Before long you doubt yourself. His anger will rob your joy as surely as the stomach flu steals your appetite.

Scripture warns, “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared” (Pro. 22:24-25).

“An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins” (Pro. 29:22).

Life happens. You need a spouse who can handle disappointment, not one that will crush your children’s spirits or foster angry teens. 

4. A Man Who is Narcissistic

Narcissists are known to create confusion, chaos and conflicts. A narcissistic husband with a narcissistic personality will create turmoil on a regular basis and on purpose to keep you in a heightened state of anxiety. He will do this even when things are good so you don’t expect the relationship to go left or to be kicked to the curb. They will give their wives the silent treatment when they’re in one of their moods which will make them wonder what they did wrong. Creating chaos is also one of the oldest narcissistic tactics in the book, next to the silent treatment and is absolutely intentional. Everything that a narcissist does is done with the purpose of keeping you on your toes.

5. A Man Who Lacks Empathy

An ideal husband connects with their spouse on an intellectual, emotional and intuitive level. Another major sign of a bad husband is a man who can’t empathize with their significant other. Understanding is key in every relationship, especially marriage. When two people in a marriage understand each other, they become aware of the commonalities that exist between them and also recognize and appreciate the differences. If you are empathetic with your spouse, you communicate with feeling and with respect for your spouse’s wants, attitudes and values. Your partner feels understood and validated when they talk with you. If you’ve developed your ability to be empathetic, your spouse not only feels understood, but also loved.

6. He’s charming but lacks character.

Many women have said the gifts and attention their husbands showered on them while dating ceased shortly after marriage. “What happened?” they wondered. The Bible warns, “Charm is deceptive” (Pro. 31:30), and “an enemy multiplies kisses” (Pro. 27:6).

Who we marry affects us—and our extended family—for the rest of our lives. It’s wise to consider where the character of the person we date will take us in the years to come. Let me illustrate. 

We lived in Raleigh when Hurricane Fran tore through North Carolina. “We fell asleep sending up prayers for our neighbors in South Carolina, thinking we were safe. We awoke to crashing trees and howling winds, smack dab in the middle of Fran. How could the weather forecasters have been so off? We learned that, far out in the ocean, the hurricane had moved north—just a few degrees. A few degrees doesn’t seem like it would make much of a difference. But a few degrees extended over hundreds of miles put the hurricane in a different state.

“What is true for storms is also true for people. A few degrees off in character extended over several years can put people in a different state of being from whom we thought they were.” *

How does he treat servers, co-workers, and his parents? A man of noble character may be rare but worth the wait. Who is the person beneath the charm?

7. A Man Who Doesn’t Work at Love

A good man knows that love takes work. A bad husband won’t put the necessary energy into the relationship to get quality outcomes. The truth is, marriage takes a lot of effort. Yes, we are tired. We are busy. Now add professional desires and commitments, children, money and other responsibilities. However, this isn’t an excuse for anyone to not put the necessary work into the relationship. Sometimes, it just doesn’t seem to be enough time or energy left. Regardless of what is going on in your life, a good spouse always has time for their partner. They know that love is a verb, not just a feeling, so it requires giving not just receiving. They are committed to making the relationship work, even when the chips are down. If we don’t find room for our spouses in our busy schedules, it’s very possible we will lose them.

8. He’s lazy.

The Scripture says, “One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys” (Proverbs 18:9). How many people have lost their families, careers, and souls through laziness? The parable of the talents called the idle servant “wicked” and “lazy” (Matt. 25:26). These strong words are spoken with good reason. 

Apathy damages our character, hinders our growth, and robs God and those with whom we live and work. Those who ignore their responsibilities damage their team’s morale and effectiveness. A spouse who is too lethargic to invest in his marriage or share the load of rearing children drains the whole family.

Sloths are parasites to society and their families. Paul wrote, “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat” (2 Thes. 3:10). Laziness often hides behind unreasonable fears and excuses (Pro. 26:13).** Steer clear of a lazy man.

9. A Man Who Doesn’t Actively Listen

A bad husband not only lacks the ability to communicate effectively, he also doesn’t listen. A man who doesn’t listen can break a relationship down in so many ways. Solid, healthy communication is essential in any relationship because it’s the pathway to intimacy. Women want to be heard in their marriage. When we talk and share our feelings, we feel closer to others and get our needs met. However, talking is only half of the equation. The other half is listening. Without the capacity for good listening, communication will break down. A good spouse actively listens to their partner, and is engaged when their partner is expressing a concern or need. When there’s something they want to communicate to you, you stop whatever you’re doing to give them your gull attention. Even if there’s a point you want to bring up when they’re talking, you make it a point to not interrupt your spouse so that they are truly heard.

10. A Man Who Doesn’t Actively Listen

A bad husband not only lacks the ability to communicate effectively, he also doesn’t listen. A man who doesn’t listen can break a relationship down in so many ways. Solid, healthy communication is essential in any relationship because it’s the pathway to intimacy. Women want to be heard in their marriage. When we talk and share our feelings, we feel closer to others and get our needs met. However, talking is only half of the equation. The other half is listening. Without the capacity for good listening, communication will break down. A good spouse actively listens to their partner, and is engaged when their partner is expressing a concern or need. When there’s something they want to communicate to you, you stop whatever you’re doing to give them your gull attention. Even if there’s a point you want to bring up when they’re talking, you make it a point to not interrupt your spouse so that they are truly heard.

11. A Dishonest Man

Dishonesty is a big sign of a bad husband. When honesty is missing from the relationship, it’s missing a key foundation – trust. A good husband realizes the importance of honesty in a marriage. Honesty builds trust between people. Dishonesty does the opposite. Deception can be extremely destructive. It confuses the other person, betrays their vulnerability and can mess up their sense of reality. Even in painful situations such as infidelity, the blatant deception involved is often equally, if not more hurtful than the unfaithful act itself. A good spouse believes integrity comes first and there are no discrepancies between words and actions. This goes for verbal and nonverbal communication. Being open and honest in our marriage means we really know ourselves and our intentions.

12. A Man Who Doesn’t Value Intimacy

Healthy relationships thrive on intimacy and a good husband values it in their marriage. A bad husband doesn’t focus on the needs of their partner but their own needs first. Regardless of whether it’s a physical intimacy or emotional intimacy, your relationship will break down without it. A good husband is responsive on many levels: physically, emotional and verbally. They are personal, acknowledging and outwardly demonstrative of feelings of warmth and tenderness. They are open to giving and receiving affection. If you can be physically and emotionally intimate with your husband, you are setting up the foundation for a long relationship with your partner. Without the emotional and physical bond between partners, there’s nothing to hold onto when things get rough and both partners find themselves feeling as though they’ve got no anchor to keep them safe when things get rocky.

13. A Man Who Doesn’t Compromise

We’ve all heard the saying, it takes two to tango and that couldn’t be truer. A marriage requires give and take. A good husband is willing to compromise things to make their partner happy but a bad husband is unwilling to put his wife’s needs first. For example, a compromising spouse may hold off on a night out with friends if they know their spouse isn’t feeling well. Compromise doesn’t mean that you don’t have a backbone or that you always bend to your partner’s needs. It also doesn’t mean you have to always compromise. Ultimately, compromise shows your spouse that they are your number one priority. When you do this, they may feel more inclined to compromise too.

14. A Man Who Doesn’t Respect Your Independence (or Lacks Their Own)

Maintaining individuality is critical to establishing a long-lasting, healthy relationship. There should be equal efforts between attending to oneself and making the relationship work. A good spouse values their partner’s interests separate from their own. There are many men who are insecure who aren’t ok with relationship independence. This can point to bigger issues down the line. A good husband is supportive of their significant other’s goals in life and their individuality. They are also sensitive to their significant other’s wants, desires and feelings, and believe they are equal to their own. A good spouse is also respectful of their partner’s distinct personal boundaries, while at the same time remaining close physically and emotionally.

15. He lacks a growing relationship with God—even if he’s religious.

Perhaps the man you’re interested in started attending church with you. Maybe he is active in ministry. But is he hungry to know God? Does He love Jesus and people? 

Religious activity and a heart for God are not the same. “The Pharisees, who were the pastors and Bible teachers of Jesus’ day, were hyper-religious. They also reeked of self-righteousness and lacked the mark of true faith—love for God and people.

“The warning in 2 Corinthians 6:14, ‘Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For… what fellowship can light have with darkness?’ deals with a person’s essence, not his or her profession of faith. There is a difference between having a religion and enjoying a relationship with Christ.” ***

Don’t marry someone to redeem him. That’s Jesus’ job. Marry someone you respect for who they are now, not for who you hope they will become. 

There may be no such thing as the perfect partner, but an ideal partner can be found in someone who has developed themselves in certain ways that go beyond looks, charm and success. A good husband is committed to a long-lasting marriage and is willing to do whatever it takes to keep their partner happy. Make sure these qualities are in place for a healthy relationship.

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