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10 Ways to Let a Christian Guy Know You’re Interested In Him

Have your eye on a man of faith? Here’s what will really catch his attention.

Proverbs 21:9

Christian single women often feel trapped by the teachings they find in church. They are told that marriage is a wonderful thing and they hear all these love stories sprinkled through the pastor’s sermon, but they are also told they must not do anything but wait to be found by the man of their dreams.

how to let a christian guy know that you like him

While I do believe it is a good sign when a Christian man pursues a Christian woman because this indicates he is more likely to lead in the marriage one day, I do not believe the Bible forbids a Christian woman from letting a Christian guy know that she’s interested in him and would like to date him.

So what do men with sincere Christian faith truly look for in a woman? What will give them that twinkle in their eye when they see you?

Let’s go through 10 things that will make you attractive to a real Christian man.

1. If You Want to Let a Christian Guy Know that You Like Him, Talk to Him More than Usual

Honestly, it doesn’t take much for a guy to assume that you like him. Seriously, just talking to him more than you do to other guys will probably be enough for most men to start thinking you like him. The key is to talk to him more than you talk to other people. If you are just naturally social and he sees you talking to other people just as much as you talk to him, he will probably not assume that you are interested in him.

When you go out of your way to have a conversation with a guy, you are letting him know you are interested because men do not do this with each other. Girls go up to one another all the time just to chat. In general, guys do not do this. Most guys don’t enjoy small talk unless it is small talk with a woman they like. So you don’t need to go up to a guy and talk to him about your feelings towards him. In fact, if you do this you will probably scare him away unless he already really likes you.

Rather, just going out of your way to have a normal conversation with him sends him a powerful message. This is why many men get mixed signals from girls. A girl talks to him and then he asks her out.  She’s so confused by this and has to let him down and things just get awkward. So if you don’t want a guy to ask you out or you start feeling a man pursuing you but you don’t want him to, then trim back how much you talk to him.

In Ester 1:10-22 we have an extreme example of the importance of communication between a man and a woman. Queen Vashti refused to come to the king’s banquet and would not talk to him. This greatly offended the king and he never spoke with her again. This is obviously an extreme example, but we can see here how communication is a sign of pleasure in someone and silence is a sign of displeasure towards someone.

How can you let a Christian guy know that you like him? You don’t need to have a big heart to heart conversation. Just send him a casual text about something you have in common. Leave a comment when he posts something on social media. Send him an email of a YouTube video you thought was funny. Just talk to him! Some guys really are socially clueless and may not pick up on this signal, but usually just speaking to him is enough to let a Christian guy know that you’re interested.

2. If You Want to Let a Christian Man Know that You’re Interested, Encourage Him

I feel like there a lot of jokes I could make right now about how much men like hearing about their gifts and being praised by others. We can all certainly take a healthy desire for encouragement and support and turn that into a desire to be worshiped and idolized. That’s not what I am talking about here.

When a man gets married there’s nothing he wants more than for his wife to believe in him. I don’t mean that in the religious sense but rather in the relational sense. A man wants to know his woman has his back, that she trusts him, and that she believes he has something valuable to contribute to the kingdom of God. He wants his wife to be encouraging, “It is better to live in a corner of the house top than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife” (Proverbs 21:9).

If you are able to make a man feel like you really see his gifts and value what he has to offer, he will probably be attracted to you. We all live in a world that is constantly knocking us down. Men feel the competition even more than woman because to many men, everything is a competition. If you encourage a man and let him know that you respect him, you will be a breath of fresh air to him and he will want to be around you more.

Encouraging is also a great way to let a man know that you are interested in him because you are not crossing the line. In my opinion encouragement is like the biblical way to flirt with a guy you like. Worldly flirting is about flaunting yourself in front of someone in hopes of arousing him. Biblical encouragement is letting someone know that you value and respect them. So if you want to let a Christian guy know that you like him, let him know what you like about him in an encouraging way.

3. If You Want to Let a Christian Guy Know that You Like Him, Invite Him to Spend Time With You

If you want to send a guy a signal that you like him without being too pushy or coming off desperate, invite him to attend an event with you, invite him to join your group of friends for a night out, or invite him to join you for a party you plan to attend. It doesn’t really matter what you invite him to, it just matters that you send him some sort of clear invitation to spend time with you.

It’s important that you don’t invite him and then invite 10 other people too. He will not get the picture if you do that. But if he knows you specifically went out of your way to invite him, he really should get the picture that you are interested in him as more than a friend.

I believe the invitation is such a powerful tool for a Christian woman who wants to let a guy know that she’s interested because this allows her to send a clear message without having to clearly say, “I like you. Will you go out with me?” I know what I’m saying sounds a lot like asking a guy out, but I do think there is a difference. An invitation is simply you letting a guy know that you would like to spend time with him. You don’t have to call it a date or define your intentions. You don’t have to explain the motivations of your heart or the hopes you have for this relationship. Just a simple invitation is all that’s needed.

If a guy likes you, he will gladly accept. If he does, let him take it from here and do not pursue him and chase him around. Let him lead and let him initiate after you set things up initially. If he accepts but then just wants you to keep pursuing him and doing everything, this is not a good sign. You don’t want to chase a guy around as this is a sign he is passive and is not ready to lead you like you desire. If you go out and have a great time, wait for him to make the next move. Don’t invite him again until he initiates something first this time. If he’s interested, he should pursue you at this point.

If he does not accept your invitation, it probably means he is not interested in you. An invitation is a tactful way for a woman to express interest in a man because it leaves him room to politely decline without feeling the pressure of hurting your feelings too much like he would feel if you just came out and said, “I really like you and want to date you.”

If he says no, it won’t be awkward next time you see him. It is what it is. No big deal. You should feel good about doing something rather than just waiting around wondering if a guy likes you or not.

4. Ask for help. 

Need someone to help you change a tire or move a heavy piece of furniture? The damsel in distress routine can really open the door for a deeper relationship. Even if you can do it yourself, let him do his thing and save the day.

5. Smile While You Stir: 

A cheerful woman is hugely attractive. A self-absorbed, complaining, and moody woman is hard to lead and please. Ask any married man to describe what attracted him to his wife, and among his top qualities will be her smile—hands down. But this is not superficial cheer. It must really be grounded in the next quality. . . .

6. DON’T Stalk Him on Social Media. 

It gives you the illusion that you know him better than you actually do. Don’t even look once if you’ve never had a real conversation with him.

7. DON’T Try to Get to Him Through His Friends.

While I would say that it is definitely important to know and meet his friends (eventually), this shouldn’t be your primary source of information. Don’t play the “does he like me” game. It reads as insecure and puts his homies in an awkward position.

8. DON’T Picture What Your Kids Would Look Like.

Stay in the present, the here and now. Don’t let your mind wander away into a fantasy world or go racing to your 36 Dream Wedding Pinterest boards.

9. Be Direct and Tell Him

Men like it when a woman is assertive. Just tell the man how you feel! Most men appreciate when a woman is confident enough to put herself out there and be direct with her feelings. Plus it takes the guess work out of the equation.

10. DO – Say Hi.

Yes I know, it sounds radical but grab a friend, walk over to him and say…
“Hi My name is (insert your name here) and this is my friend, (insert friend’s name) and we’re trying to meet new people. How’s it going?”

Then choose from one of the following, (I’m going to keep going with church as the location but they are easily adaptable to other places).

  • “How long have you been coming here?
  • “What did you think of the service?”
  • “How did you hear about __________?

See if the conversation flows. It might, it might not. Smile and say, it was great to meet you, have an awesome day. Then here’s the tricky part: don’t do anything. Take a deep breath and see what happens. If you’ve talked to him more than once and he hasn’t said,

  • “Are you going to be at ____________?”
  • “My friends are having a bonfire, do you want to join us?
  • “Want to grab a cup of coffee sometime?”

Then, I am sorry to say beautiful, but he’s just not that into you and that’s OKAY! If he’s not reaching out, don’t force it.  Don’t make up crazy schemes or obsess over him. Trust that God knows what’s up and he can use all things for our good.  

The truth is, in this world of relentless technology it seems we are losing the ability to be outgoing and put ourselves out there.  We hide behind our touch screens and insecurities when in reality, every relationship starts with one simple world: Hello (or Hi. Hey… you know, make it your own).

Timothy 1:7 says, “For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.” (NASB) Yes, this verse is talking about spreading the gospel, but it also can be applied to all areas of our lives, even dating. God didn’t give us a spirit that is shy or afraid, he gave us a spirit of confidence and love. When you know that your worth comes from Jesus, there’s absolutely nothing to be afraid of when meeting new people.

What Not to Do If You Are a Christian Girl Who Wants to Let a Guy Know She’s Interested

Don’t just openly tell a guy you like him unless you just have to. In my opinion, the only reason to just tell a guy that you like him is if you think he is too socially and relationally clueless.

Some great Christian men really just don’t get relationships. They will make a great husband one day but they are not going to be counseling anyone on how to date or how to have a successful marriage. They will love their woman, protect their families, faithfully go to work every day, and they will continue to grow as godly men. But many guys just won’t ever be relationship experts. You don’t need to be a relationship expert to be a great husband. In fact, you should not expect your man to understand relationships like you do. Most guys just won’t be that socially advanced. But most know enough to sense when a girl is sending him a signal.

So again, unless you think he just isn’t getting it, I would not have an open conversation about it. The reason I say that is because he is probably not responding to your signals not because he doesn’t get it but probably because he doesn’t like you. The beauty of sending signals as a woman is that you give the guy the freedom to say no without making it awkward for you and him. An open conversation about it seems kind of pushy and puts pressure on a guy. The same goes for a long letter explaining all your hopes and dreams for the two of you.

Lastly, don’t wait too long for his response to your invitation. Don’t chase him around if he showed a little interest at one point but now is not. Send him some clear signals and take his lack of response as his answer, “Not interested.”

By being more active and letting a guy know that you are interested, you are putting yourself way ahead in the game. The odds of you actually getting into a Christian relationship if you are just waiting to be found and doing nothing are drastically smaller than when you are more proactive.

Be tactful, but don’t be afraid to let a Christian guy know that you are interested by sending him some helpful signals.


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