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How To Get Through The Holidays When You’re Single

The holiday season is finally here and that means it’s the time of year when you get to catch up with your family and old friends, which should mean an automatic time of good cheer. But the holidays can be a bit different when you’re single and not boo’d up like everyone else.

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Sometimes family can be relentless when it comes to questioning your single relationship status and the holidays can quickly turn from a cause for celebration to complete avoidance. If you’re single this year, don’t worry because we’ve compiled a list of ways to navigate the holiday season in the most stress-free manner possible.

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Celebrate Being Single

One of the most important things to remember during the holidays and throughout the rest of the year, is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. You don’t need to be pitied, you don’t need to be set up on dates and you don’t need lectures.

So, in the spirit of recognizing that your singlehood is common and on your own terms, celebrate it! Remind yourself of all of the positive aspects of being single at this point in your life and you’re bound to have a great holiday season.

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Focus On Your Family/Friends, NOT Your Relationship Status

The holidays are about making memories and spending time with those who are closest to you, so remember that if you start to feel bad about being single.

Instead of concentrating on your relationship status, take this time of year to spend as much quality time with your loved ones as you can. Let your worries and frustrations go and have fun…even without a significant other.

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Start Your Own Holiday Traditions

One of the benefits of being single during the holidays is that you are in the position to start your own holiday traditions without having to consider the schedules, opinions or preferences of others.

If you want to go on a cruise the day after Christmas, spend New Year’s at a wellness spa or host a girl’s night pajama party on Christmas Eve, you have the luxury to do so because you’re happily single.

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Bring Your Friend(s) To The Family Gathering

There is something to be said for having your support system with you during a likely tense situation. If you know your family wastes no time prying in your business and questioning your relationship status, then you might want to bring your bestie(s) to act as a buffer.

Whether you bring one friend or multiples, your friends love you and they will be there to have your back when the jabs at your single life begin to be too much

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Be Grateful For The Good Things In Your Life

We could have everything we’ve ever wanted in life, but we only focus on what’s missing. This feeling is often magnified during the holidays when it seems that everyone around you is coupled up.

Stop yourself from feeling this way and instead remind yourself how lucky you are for all of the positive things in your life. Resist the urge to let negativity and longing cloud the season that’s meant for appreciation and being grateful

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Respectfully Ignore Outdated Opinions/Comments From Family

This is a tough one. On one hand you love your family, but on the other hand you often feel hurt and/or disrespected by their comments about your relationship status. This puts you in quite a dilemma because you don’t want to ruin the holidays with a argument, but you want your respect.

The best way to deal with this all too common occurrence is to be firm yet respectful. If your family members start spouting their outdated opinions and comments about why you’re single, let them know it’s not cool by ignoring them or changing the subject. Hopefully, they’ll get the point and everyone can have a nice holiday without incident

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Host The Family Gathering

If you’re busy enough no one will have the time to continuously ask you about your relationship status. That’s the logic behind deciding to host the family holiday gathering.

While you’re running around being the perfect hostess, tending to your guests, it gives you the perfect excuse to leave a conversation or a room when the relationship questions become too intrusive.

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Give Back To The Community

To put your life in perspective and also be of service to others, take some time out during the holiday season to give back to your community.

Not only are you doing something positive, you also won’t have time to stress about being single because you’ll be too busy making a difference in the life of someone who needs it.

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Prepare Yourself For The Tough Questions

You know it’s coming before you even arrive, so perhaps it’s smart to prepare yourself (and your answers) for the tough questions about your relationship that are bound to come.

By being prepared, you’re also going into the situation more relaxed because you already know how to respond to any shade, unsolicited advice or unwarranted opinions that will arise.

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Indulge In A Lot Of Self-Care

Since you’re single and the holidays means you have some time off from work, why not use the opportunity to indulge in some much-needed self-care?

It could be something as small as a long bubble bath or as extravagant as an international excursion to a wellness retreat. Whatever methods of self-care you prefer, utilize them as much as possible during the often stressful holiday season.

By Danielle Jennings


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