We can all agree that being in a relationship is tricky stuff, especially if you are trying to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
Many people will tell you that you will know “without a doubt” when the right guy comes along, but sometimes it’s not that easy.
The reason it is not easy to determine if someone could be your life partner is that many women don’t actually know what they want in a relationship, or what they need from a man.
Up to this point, most women have been dating the wrong men and are still on the hunt for what works for them. That muddies the waters and makes it difficult to see the signs when a good man comes along.
There is one thing that all women look for in a relationship though: respect. If he doesn’t respect you, you need to move on.
Here are six ways to tell if a man really respects you because he’ll do these on a regular basis.
1) He Pays Attention to You
In the age of cellphones and social media, it can be hard to get and hold someone’s attention.
When someone is staring at their phone, what they are saying to you is that anything on the internet is more interesting that you are right now. Ouch. That hurts. But everyone does it to everyone else.
However, when a man is really interested in being with a woman, he’ll put his phone down and give you all of his attention.
He’ll hear you when you talk, and he’ll actually be able to carry on a conversation with you because he was listening. If he’s always scrolling through Facebook seeing what his friends are up to, he doesn’t respect you.
2) He Supports You When You Need Him
Women are stronger than ever and are living independent lives of their own accord. That doesn’t mean they don’t want to be in meaningful relationships, and that doesn’t mean that they don’t need someone’s shoulder to cry on once in a while.
Strong women need strong men to be by their side, and in today’s society, it can be hard to find someone who will stand beside you when the going gets tough.
You’ll know your guy is special and respects you if he picks up the phone when you call, and he gives you space when you need it.
Support doesn’t always come in the form of hand-holding: sometimes women need their space, and a good man knows when to let you have it.
3) He Maintains Open Lines of Communication
Women often roll their eyes at the communication styles of men. It seems that men and women have different communication styles, yet women continually expect men to adopt the communication styles of women.
Instead of waiting around for your guy to become a woman, pay attention to how he does communicate his wants, needs, and feelings to you on a regular basis. If he isn’t a talker, does he listen to you when you talk?
If he isn’t much of a phone person, does he send you text messages to let you know he is thinking about you? If he doesn’t like crowds, does he give you all of his attention when it’s just the two of you?
Rather than criticize his communication styles, look for ways he maintains open lines of communication. If he respects you, he’ll show you by saying the right things, but also by showing you he cares.
4) He Makes You and Your Relationship a Priority in His Life
Women sometimes find themselves taking a backseat to a man’s job or friends. If you have experienced this, you know that it can lead to a lot of resentment and distrust.
When you are in a relationship with a man, he should be able to express his interest in your relationship by showing you that you are a priority for him.
This doesn’t mean that he needs to bail on a meeting in the middle of the afternoon to bring you ice cream and you’d be a jerk to think it does.
It means that he makes time for you and doesn’t let other areas of his life interfere with your alone time.
5) He is Kind
Good men are not just kind to you, but they are kind to others. If you are still on the fence about being with a man, watch how he treats other people.
For eons, women have looked to how a man treats his mother, but pay attention to how he treats co-workers, how he treats wait staff at the local restaurant, and how he interacts with strangers.
Kind men see people; they don’t just glaze over them in passing. If he does this to other people, he is likely to do it to you.
6) He is Honest
A man who respects you will always tell you the truth, even if it is hard to do. There’s a big difference between being a jerk and being candid.
Sometimes hard conversations need to be had in relationships, and if he respects you, he’ll be able to have those conversations with you.
If he doesn’t, you’ll find him drinking beer with his buddies trying to avoid the situation.
A real man will step up even when it’s uncomfortable because he knows the relationship, and you, are worth it.
If you enjoy OfficialDivineA, sign up to our email list and we’ll notify you about new articles as soon they come out. No spam, we promise.
And if you’d like to see these messages of love and hope go further, support us via our Patreon page.
If you died today, are you absolutely certain that you would go to heaven? You can be! Click here and TRUST JESUS NOW