We sometimes make vows like; I’ll never allow anyone to hurt me like that again! I’ll never be made a fool of! I won’t ever be that vulnerable again! Significantly, those vows would impact and sabotage our life and relationship! Truth of the matter is, it’s not about what you try to do. It’s about Who you submit it to – God!

Despite our natural inclination to hold on to offenses, God commands us to forgive, as He has forgiven. Colossians 3:13 says,“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

But…forgiveness can be tough. Oh, we may be willing to forgive, but find ourselves powerless to live out that forgiveness with complete freedom. We find ourselves trying to will away negative emotions of un-forgiveness, only to find it resurfacing when we least expect it. We understand that forgiveness is a choice and a mandate for relationships and marriage—but all too often we fail to be able to extend it, completely.

So, the million dollar question remaining is how? How do you overcome bitterness, and freely forgive?

Here are a few suggestions that helped us in our journey:

  1. Submit your pain to God (Say; Lord, I can’t but You can!)
  2. . Remember, sometimes pain is expressed in stages. The severity of the wound often determines the length of the healing process—don’t give up. God is near and ready to help. He is close to the brokenhearted and saves those crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18)
  3. Confess any hatred or anger you may be harboring.  Address your emotions head on. Express them to God in simple sentences. Ask for help and the ability to forgive. Vocalize forgiveness out loud. It’s good to hear yourself say it. “I forgive (interject name) for (interject offense). God help me to remember this offense no longer.”
  4. Remember God is your defender. He is faithful to protect. Don’t take vengeance into your own hands. God will protect far better than you can defend yourself. Ask for His intervention.
  5. Recognize you can’t control another person’s actions. Each of us will give an account for our own actions, not one another’s. Submit your life to the principles of God’s Word and allow Him to convict your offender.
  6. Finally, freedom starts with a choice to forgive. We can’t change our past, but we need NOT be a victim to it. If we harbor bitterness it only destroys us. So, even if you don’t feel like forgiving, begin by praying “Lord I’m willing to be willing.”

Forgiveness isn’t easy…but it is liberating when you allow God to dominate your heart!


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